I am so sick of listening to women complain about shitty men!!
His beard is gross…he dresses like a homeless person…he’s always late…he’s always blowing me off…all he wants is sex…he’s getting fat…he drinks too much…he won’t introduce me to his friends…he’s selfish in bed…he won’t share his life with me…and on and on and on. UGH!
Here’s an idea. STOP FUCKING SHITTY MEN. And guess what else? IT IS YOUR FAULT that men are shitty. You have trained and conditioned them to be this way. Women today are so desperate to have a man that they settle. Standards have become ridiculously low. Men are simple. And lazy. And kinda stupid. But brilliant with it. They have figured out that they can be shitty and still get laid. Whoa. Now it’s on.
How to fix it? I’m torn between two old catch phrases: “Stop using sex as a weapon” and “Why (should he) buy the cow when he gets the milk for free?” We, as women, need to find a happy medium. We also need to be happier with ourselves and less reliant on a relationship. When you realize you are strong and happy all on your own, you will be better equipped to make good dating decisions.
When you are confident and self-reliant you will see men (and the usually obvious red flags) more clearly. The strong and confident among you will say, “Let’s see, he showed up late and is dressed sloppily” …or…”he didn’t hold the door for me or stand to greet me” …or…”he got hammered at our first meeting. Nope. No effort. No respect. No consideration for me. Lemon law dude. I’m out. Buh bye.” You leave, and he goes home alone. No sex for him! If this happens often enough, they will learn. I promise!
What is your biggest dating pet peeve? Or your “deal breaker” red flag? Mine is when a guy refuses to call me on the phone and asks me out, for the very first time, via text. Maybe it is because I come from a pre-texting era, but I don’t think so. It’s just so lazy and gutless. I want to know that I am important enough for him to step outside his comfort zone and put in a little effort. I also want to know that he isn’t too much of a chickenshit to face possible awkwardness or rejection.
Pick up the phone. Call me up. Speak to me, in full sentences…almost as if we are both grown-ups!! Plus, this way (as I described in my online dating articles) you get a lot more information that texts can’t provide. Is he too stupid to string together full sentences? Does he have a voice like Mike Tyson or Kermit the Frog? Is everything he says disagreeable to you? Etc. If any of these are true over the phone, then it is pretty much guaranteed that it will not be better in person. Now you’ve saved yourself the time and hassle of another bad date. You’re welcome.
So anyway, I don’t care how horny you are. Get a vibrator or rub one out or eat chocolate. Whatever. Deal with it. But don’t bang just to bang. Don’t date just to date. Make him earn it. Make him work for it. Make him respect you. Make him treat you well. It’ll be better all around. It will be better for you. It will be better for the next woman. It will be better for EVERYONE. And here’s a little extra incentive. The sex will be better too! Boom.