So you have your profile set up and you’re ready to go. Now what? There are three ways to go.
1) Browse profiles and make the first move.
2) Sit back and wait for guys to make the first move.
1) Browsing profiles can be time consuming, but you can make it fun. Make a date of it. Pour yourself a glass of wine, light some candles, cuddle up on the couch and get cruisin! If you have a girlfriend who is also online dating, invite her over and make it a girls’ night.
Set your search parameters (age range, height, body type, location, etc.) and start scrolling. If you see someone you like, make a move. But first, READ HIS PROFILE. If you still like him, send him a nice message. Keep it short but sweet and try to reference something in his bio. This will make your message stand out and automatically give a feeling of camaraderie.
2) When receiving emails, the classiest thing to do is reply to all of them, if you have the time to do so. Here is my school of thought: I took the time to write out EXACTLY what/who I’m looking for. They should take the time to read that and evaluate themselves as a potential match. Yeah right. 😛
If you get a message from a guy who fits your parameters and you are attracted to him, YAY!! Read his message, read his profile, then reply appropriately. Respond to whatever he wrote, then add a question or comment related to his bio. Get the dialog going.
If you get a message from someone who fits the parameters but isn’t attractive to you, bummer. Write back something polite like, “Thank you for the nice message. Best of luck on your search.” Most guys will understand and go away. If they write you again, you can either tell them that you just don’t think you’d make a good couple, or ignore that follow up.
If you get a message from someone who clearly does not fit those parameters, UGH. You can try the polite kiss off or just delete. Personally, I clearly state that a guy must be at least 5’11” and under 40 (I also explain why). I often get messages from 5’9ers and oldies. These are automatically deleted. Also deleted are the hate-mails. If you are as specific as I am, you will get hate-mail. Or should I say hate-male? Ha ha. Anyway, don’t let it bother you. Obviously those guys have their own issues to deal with. Don’t let it get to you.
Most importantly, be aware that online dating is like buying a lottery ticket. It’s for entertainment only and should not be intended for investment purposes. 🙂 Again, don’t take it too seriously. Keep it light and fun. If you find someone (or someones) GREAT!! People actually do win the lottery. Otherwise, keep playing. Have fun. Share your experiences.