In today’s busy times, online dating is the way to go! Who has time to waste cruising for one guy when you can get online and juggle a dozen at a time? BUT you must have a good AND HONEST profile. Here are the steps to take to create a good profile:
1) PICTURES. Lots of them. As many as the site will allow. Your profile pic should be a headshot. Smile, don’t smile, smirk, laugh, whatever is comfortable for you and most accurately represents your personality. Then you need at least one long shot. This means full body. I can’t tell you how many guys (ALL OF THEM) have complained about this. They say, “Women are geniuses when it comes to making themselves look skinny when they’re not.” Please note, you do not have to be skinny to be attractive. You do have to be honest. The rest of the pictures should be fun candids of you doing your favorite things. If all of your pix are selfies, this sends out a red flag. “Doesn’t she do anything?” “Doesn’t she have friends to take pictures with?” etc. And know that they don’t need to be glamour shots. Guys are just as turned by you in jeans, a tank top and baseball cap as they are by you all dressed up. More so, generally. The final, and probably most important point here is…YOUR PICTURES MUST BE RECENT.
2) BIO. Make your statement short but sweet. If you had to describe yourself with one word, what would it be? What do you like to do? Be honest. Not everyone likes to rock climb, camp, fish, etc. If you like to go dancing, say so. Karaoke? Hiking? Sitting on your butt on the couch watching movies? Say so.
3) HIM. What/who are you looking for? Be honest. If you have a type, describe him. If you have definite “must haves” mention them. List form is never a bad idea. Deal breakers? Same goes.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to be upfront and honest. This will cut through a lot of bullshit. Not all of it, but most. It will also keep you from starring in their “bad date” stories. You’ll still get messages from guys who don’t fit your parameters but that’s because men often don’t read. Sigh. The good news is, you will know immediately if a guy read your profile because his email will tell you. Of all the many, many men I’ve communicated with over the last decade or so, the ones I had the best first dates with were almost always the ones whose opening email specifically mentioned how much he loved what I wrote.
Follow these tips and you’ll be off and running. I hopes this helps! Best of luck and happy hunting!