Finding The One…But You Can’t Keep Him

by Aphrodite


The day you realize you have met the person you could see yourself ending up with should be the happiest day, right? Except this person who seems so right for you is actually completely wrong for you.

We live in a world where a true, honest and pure connection seems impossible to find. It’s become about looks, status, and income brackets. Society and our own moral compass tells us who we should date. You meet someone and assume they’re like the majority of men you’ve met. Shallow, selfish, disrespectful and only after one thing.

To your surprise, they actually turn out to be a genuine, caring, respectful, thoughtful and honest man. No, no one is perfect, but imagine he is perfect for you. On top of that, he feels the same about you. He is so proud to have someone like you in his life. He would never let anyone or anything hurt you. You bring out the absolute best in each other.

You’re probably asking yourself “What is the problem?” I’m going to inform you that this amazing man is 19 years your junior and a sophomore in college. Doesn’t seem perfect now, does it? Some people will say “Age is only a number,” or “Life is short, do what makes you happy.” When the sad truth is, no matter the connection, age does matter. Similar life experience does matter. I will cover the issues of older women and younger men in serious relationships in a future post.

I will never regret jumping in head first and having three of the best months of my life. I won’t tell any of you to run if you see an imminent end when meeting a great man. Life is short, so absolutely grab onto something that brings you joy. Even if it is for a short period of time.

I will advise you to be realistic and to think with your head and not your heart, for both of your sakes, if you can already see future struggles that could tarnish this special bond. Then yes, you should say goodbye. The pain will be awful but it is the right thing. You may question if you’ll ever find happiness like this again. Unfortunately there is no guarantee. Just hold onto the memories and the fact that you were able to experience a connection most people will never know.




  1. I’m not much for younger men, at least not more than a few years younger. I guess never say never but the one time I slept with a guy that was like 23 and I think I was 36, it just seemed so weird. He was cute and wanted to see me again, but I just couldn’t do it. I hate being in the role of “teacher” to a man and like men who can be dominant over me, so I think that probably figures into my disinterest as well. I do think there would be some real challenges if you wanted anything more than just a casual sex relationship.

  2. “I will advise you to be realistic and to think with your head and not your heart, for both of your sakes”

    Could you elaborate more? I’m interested in the the topic, right now I’m dating a woman, she is 33 and I’m 25. We see some dificulties, we dont have to many expectations but we really enjoy being with each other.

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