Men say a lot of things that aren’t true, even when they’re not lying. Everyone does. When you begin to pay attention to what people do rather than what they say, humans begin to make a lot more sense, and to behave more predictably. They’re only confusing because they say so many things that aren’t true, and many people expect people to do what they say.
There are two big areas where people are most prone to saying things that aren’t true, even though they think they’re telling the truth.
First, areas where people are simply ignorant and don’t have the proper information to know what they’re talking about. And second, when people try to make predictions about their future behavior, which people are notoriously terrible at doing. And that is most especially true when it comes to predictions of future behavior that involve “primal” drives and feelings, such as things surrounding sex, love, and food.
So, given these general tendencies that are applicable to everyone, here’s some specific things guys say that usually not true. In some cases they may end up being true, but it’s uncertain enough that you should just take any of these statements as meaningless and feel free to ignore them:
1. I Don’t Like Makeup
This is one of those statements where guys are speaking from ignorance and simply don’t know what they’re talking about. All guys prefer a woman’s face with makeup, because all women (indeed all people) look significantly better with makeup. There is not a human who has ever walked the planet that doesn’t look better with skillfully applied makeup.
When a guy says he doesn’t like makeup, what he means is that he doesn’t look artificial looking makeup – i.e. colors that don’t appear in nature or thick, caked on makeup that makes you notice the makeup rather than the face. He’s also making a value statement that he doesn’t like the IDEA of makeup. He doesn’t like the idea of a woman painting her face to look different, which is reasonable. But if you show him actual women with skillful, natural makeup versus no makeup at all, he is going to pick the made-up woman every time. Most of the time, he doesn’t even know how to tell if she’s wearing it, unless he spends a LOT of time with women and sees them both before and after getting dolled up.
2. I Don’t Like Plastic Surgery/Breast Implants
One again, what he’s really saying here is that he doesn’t like the IDEA of plastic surgery. He doesn’t like the IDEA of someone cutting themselves open and spending a bunch of money just to look better. And because he doesn’t like the IDEA of it, he also thinks that boob jobs and plastic surgery always looks like the most obvious and fake results. But in reality, he’s totally unaware of good plastic surgery. He thinks he hates boob jobs because he doesn’t like the over-inflated, fake look he sees on Pam Anderson or a porn actress. But he doesn’t realize that plenty of women like Kate Upton, Scarlett Johansson, etc, also have boob jobs but they’re well done and fit their body type. He doesn’t realize that literally every single Hollywood actress he knows has had a nosejob. He simply isn’t aware of all the good plastic surgery around him so he says he hates it. I know several women with amazing boob jobs that no one can tell are fake, and guys are always telling them how amazing their natural breasts are and how much they hate implants.
3. I Would Never Cheat on a Woman
The reality is that *everyone* would cheat under the right circumstances. The “right circumstances” means a sure thing opportunity with an extremely attractive person and zero chance of getting caught. But most people who have never cheated think they would never cheat. This is one of those things that people can’t understand until they’ve been placed in a situation where they are actually tempted. And then they always say the same thing, which is that they never thought they would do such a thing, and they’ve always hated cheaters, and they’re surprised at themselves.
No one can predict, in a normal state, how they’ll react in a “hot” state. They can’t predict how they would react if they ended up in a secluded situation with a smoking seductress who wants them bad and wants to keep it secret, anymore than they can predict how they would react if a bear started chasing them in the woods. These are primal situations where one’s body takes over and your rational mind really isn’t in charge anymore at all. What someone says they’ll do is merely a reflection of their values, but really doesn’t correlate well with how their body will react at all. For more on this, see:
4. MFF Threesomes are Awesome, MMF Threesomes are Gross
Disclaimer: I’ve never had a threesome and probably never will. However, I’ve heard many other people report back to me after trying them. And across the board, men are disappointed by their threesomes with two women. Instead of playing out like their porn fantasy, it turns out they have to worry about managing the women’s emotions, being fair among both, and doing twice as much work. It ends up being more anxiety-inducing than erotic. There is an exception if a man is brought into a threesome with two women who are mostly in to each other and just bring him in as a third, but that’s not the way it usually happens. In the more common situation where a guy ends up in a threesome with one woman who he knows and another who is “new”, it ends up being way too much emotional work.
On the other hand, I know many men who have proclaimed to think that the idea of a MMF threesome is disgusting and don’t want to be anywhere near another guy’s dick. Yet for some reason, they ended up involved in one after a bunch of drinking or some unexpected situation where they got drawn in. And across the board, they all enjoyed it much more than they thought they would. There’s a good reason, which is that men get harder and produce more sperm when there’s another man, because of sperm competition. So although the idea is emotionally upsetting or repulsive, most men will be aroused in a situation where a woman is having sex with more than one man because unconsciously their balls are telling them they need to out-compete the other guy’s sperm. So once again you end up with a situation where a guy can’t predict how his body will react.
Unless a guy has actually been in threesomes – and more than once – I wouldn’t bother listening to what he thinks about them because it probably doesn’t bear much relation to how they actually play out.
5. I Will Always Love You
It’s possible this will be true. But no one has the capacity to predict whether or not they’ll love someone in 5, 10, or 50 years. Anyone who says this is really just making a statement about how strongly they feel RIGHT NOW. But feelings change. The whole reason we have a million songs about loving someone forever, and another million ways to try to prove it, is precisely because romantic love is one of the most fleeting and fickle of emotions, and people therefore require a ton of reassuring. No man can predict how he’ll feel about a woman in 20 years…he doesn’t even know who she’ll be in 20 years, or who he’ll be. So take this statement with a huge grain of salt.
The only thing one can predict with certainty is that everything changes.